You’ve Met Your Perfect Match If You…

young African American couple happy( — Is your date good news or a bad story waiting to happen? Even better…is this new love The One?? How can you tell?

Below are some easy signs to tell if you two are meant to be…or meant to apart.

The Good…

1. You discover quirky things you have in common
It’s one thing to discover you both like the same album. It’s another to discover your tastes or habits jibe in more surprising ways. “What confuses people is that they think they’re a match because they have things in common that many people have in common, like favorite books or songs, so they’re fooled into thinking they’re on the same wavelength,” says Sam R. Hamburg, Ph.D., author of Will Our Love Last? “The more uncommon and surprising your similarities are, the better.” That was definitely the case for one Atlanta, GA dater named Patrick. “I have this weird habit of belting out what I’m doing in song, so when I started dating Angela, one morning I started singing ‘Here I am, in the shower…’ to a particular tune,” recalls the 29-year-old. “When she started singing back, making up more words to the same tune, I couldn’t believe it! I knew it would work out.” And it has — for three years so far.

2. Neither of you flinch when the future comes up
It’s a new-couple nightmare: One of you blurts out something like, “Ooh, next summer we should go to Hawaii” — and then freezes, fearing the other person will think, “Next year? We don’t even know if we’ll make it to next month!” But if you and your date don’t bat an eye — or better, smile and agree — you’ve successfully crossed a crucial divide. “It’s a sign that you both feel stable in the relationship,” says Sharyn Wolf, author of So You Want To Get Married: Guerilla Tactics For Turning A Date Into A Mate. So while we don’t suggest making plans with your date for next Christmas, take careful notes on what happens if you do mention some advance planning.