Getting There: How To Reach Your Orgasmic Potential

    5. Be willing. Be willing to teach your partner about what you like and what you don’t like sexually. Your partner isn’t going to know unless you tell him/her what is sexy and pleasurable to you.  Some people prefer to be passionately kissed on their neck while others prefer to have their thighs,  calves, and feet caressed. Tell your partner what feels good and be willing to even show him/her what turns you on.

    The Biggest Challenge…Is In Your Own Mind

    The biggest challenge for my many of my clients is being comfortable with their own bodies.  Oftentimes, people feel shameful about their size, shape, or way that their body moves and this prevents them from surrendering themselves sexually to their partners.

    Healthy relationships involve talking about how you feel about your body as well as how it impacts your sexual experience.

    Consider sharing with each other what you like sexually, what you think about sexually, and how you feel as a sexual being in order to develop a deeper sense of intimacy.

    Finally, you and your partner should take time out to discuss sexual expectations (e.g., frequency, protection from unplanned pregnancy and STIs, positions, etc.) for yourself and your relationship. Remember that your best sexual organ is your brain and that the dirty four-letter word that most couples fail to address with regards to sex is…TALK.

    By Dr. James Wadley, BDO Relationship Expert

    Dr. James Wadley is an Associate Professor and Director of the Master of Human Services Program at Lincoln University. He’s a licensed professional counselor and marriage, family, and sexuality therapist in Pennsylvania and New Jersey.

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