Sometimes, in the fog of excitement, our vision is impaired, and this hinders our ability to see tell-tale signs and red flags. Even if you’ve been together for a while or even married, it’s important to know if this relationship will stand the test of time.
Despite what you’ve been taught, that small voice in the back of your mind isn’t necessarily your conscience — it may be the last fully functioning piece of your brain, desperately trying to tell you that the person you’re seeing is not even close to being “the one.”
Below, are 7 signs that may indicate they’re not for you.
7. You have a list of things that they need to stop doing/saying/wearing if they want your relationship to work.
If you’re fixating on their flaws, they’re either not the one you want or you’re not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting them loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet the one whose flaws you can embrace — or at least accept.
6. There’s a Lack of Respect.
It’s important to identify how one person treats the other during a conflict. It could be an issue about money, family or any other issue. Is your partner respectful? Do they joke with you about it? Does it seem like it doesn’t matter to him/her? Or does your partner put you down, roll their eyes and treat you with utter contempt? These are signs of a lack of respect for one another.
5. They avoid conflict at any cost.
Fighting is healthy. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all… even if it looks that way.
4. They haven’t healed from a past relationship.
If you’re dating someone who recently got out of a relationship or just think back to how you met your mate–was it on the heels of their past relationship? You need to take notice if they have properly healed from it. This is especially important if sexual immorality was committed.
Having time in between relationships to heal is a good way of knowing whether they truly love you or if they are using you as they go through the stages of loneliness and withdrawal from the previous relationship.
Emotional separation is hard after a breakup. The withdrawals come, and waves of loneliness hit. If you allow them to heal properly, it will provide insurance for your heart.