In fact, according to studies, four out of five people who make New Year’s resolutions will eventually break them…and a third won’t even make it to the end of January.
Here are five clues that you’re focusing on the wrong resolutions (and a few more that you can REALLY commit to):
You’re trying to change too much. One mistake people make is attempting to change too much at once. The behaviors associated with them can be hard to maintain.
You’re too focused on the wrong goals. If you want to lose weight, and tend to eat too much, you should ask yourself why you overeat. If it’s because you’re stressed, or not getting enough sleep, then your real focus needs to be on that. By default, it may then be easier to manage the bad habits that result from the real problem.
You’re not flexible enough with your goals. When health goals fall short, people often give up instead of readjusting those goals. For example, your resolution is to work out in the morning, but you keep oversleeping. Instead of opting to try working out at lunch, you just give up altogether.
You’re not being very nice to yourself. According to a 2007 study published the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, highly restrictive eaters who were taught to think more self-compassionately about how they eat ate less candy compared to the restrictive eaters who were not taught to be self-compassionate. Why? People who treat themselves with compassion might be more successful because they are less motivated to compensate for negative feelings by adopting unhealthy behaviors.
Try these resolution tips: