Reclaiming Identity after Asperger's Syndrome

A mother hugging her smiling son(BlackDoctor.org) — Around our house, trains have faces, best friends and really important jobs to do.  They line up on the floor in my son’s bedroom, waiting for their turn to be the pick of the week. Some lay toppled on the floor with static smiles on their faces because maybe they know it won’t be long until Kaleb comes and couples them into two very premeditated rows. The trains line up according to their relationship with the other trains and their very important jobs.

Each train is a character with its own function.  Symptomatic of his Asperger’s Syndrome, Kaleb relies on the predictability of labels to explain functions and has a great expectation that those functions or roles will stay the same. Not knowing what will happen next causes him great anxiety and ultimately leads to a meltdown.

Asperger’s: Every Child Is Different, But The Problems Can Be The Same

Every child with Asperger’s Syndrome is different; but the diagnostic criteria includes sustained difficulty in social interaction, development of restricted and repetitive behaviors and interests, and overall problems engaging in the typical back and forth conversation.

Some children with Asperger’s have no interest in making friends, but some have an interest in the idea of friends but don’t have the social skills and social understanding to do it.  For example, my son shows a fleeting interest in making friends.  As a toddler, he would scope the playground for a child playing alone and waddle his way over to sit in the same proximity, typically without saying or doing much of anything with the other child.  His idea of making friends was simply sitting next to another child.