(BlackDoctor.org) — Dating is rarely easy for anyone. But when you live with a disfiguring skin disease like psoriasis, you have another layer of anxiety to add to the everyday stresses of finding a partner. For many people living with the condition, insecurities about their appearance and fear of rejection get in the way of romance. But having psoriasis doesn’t have to prevent you from finding your happily ever after—and in some ways, it might even help.
How to break the news
Unlike sexually transmitted diseases, psoriasis is not contagious. But as with STDs, most people want to explain psoriasis to people they’re dating so that they’re prepared when they see it and understand they can’t catch it. That’s tricky, because you may fear that telling the truth is a one-way ticket to rejection.
The common question people ask is, will my condition be the deal-breaker? If it is, it’s a sign that the relationship wasn’t meant to be. In that way, the disease serves almost as a litmus test for future mates by separating the good from the bad right out of the gate.
If clothing covers your lesions, you have a little more time to broach the topic. Here’s how to do it when you’re ready.