4 Real Reasons Why Women Cheat
There are many reasons for infidelity, such as revenge, boredom, the thrill of sexual novelty or sexual addiction. But experts say that a large majority of the time, motivations differ by gender, with men searching for more sex or attention, and women looking to fill an emotional void.
“Women tell me, ‘I was lonely, not connected, I don’t feel close to my partner, and I was taken for granted,'” says Winifred Reilly, MA, MFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Berkeley, Calif. “They say they wanted to have someone who would look into their eyes and make them feel sexy again.”
Reason 1: A Need For An Emotional Connection
Every affair is different, and so are every woman’s reasons for her involvement.
That said, men are more likely to cite sexual motivations for infidelity and are less likely to fall in love with an extramarital partner, says Helen Fisher, PhD, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University and the author of Why Him? Why Her? and Why We Love.