Is marriage even fun anymore? That’s what many couples who are getting divorced are trying to figure out. Time after time, we read about or know of couples getting divorced after years of marriage, but why? Once again, another Hollywood couple has recently decided to call it quits. Comedian Chris Rock and wife, Malaak Compton-Rock filed for divorce after nearly 20 years of marriage…20 years! How does this happen? Are Hollywood marriages that hard to maintain? With the onslaught of African American marriages visibly breaking down, we compiled this list of tips from successful couples on how to divorce-proof your marriage.
1. If you have to fight, walk and fight. Many arguments stem more from being cooped up together in tight quarters than from the issue at hand. Plus, getting fresh air is good for you, and it will give you more energy for No. 3. (Hey, everyone knows that makeup No. 3 is the best kind.)
2. Over-Communicate. Some, many men especially, don’t see the value in over-communicating to their spouse. While one spouse may not want to hear or share everything about themselves, the other spouse may want to know. So if one spouse needs to hear it, it’s important to the marriage. Over communication also cuts down on rumors about you and your mate–you’ll already know the truth before anyone else says something. Treat your life like a great Facebook post, SHARE IT!
3. Have sex with each other. Seriously! Sex is proven to lighten the mood, make you feel better in a number of ways, including reducing stress. One piece of advice someone shared is to begin to undress anytime you and your mate start to argue–you will either have sex or die laughing (Ha! It’s worth a try). And if you can’t have sex with each other for some reason, let your spouse know that you are thinking about having sex with him and that you are looking forward to the next time you are both available for sex. Try sending a “sext”. Just make sure you’re sending it to the right person!
4. Respect “Me Time”. Sometimes your spouse needs to go to the bathroom for 45 minutes. Look, he’s not going to the bathroom the whole time; he’s trying to get away from you. And that’s OK. Maybe you’re being annoying. We can all be annoying at one time or another. That doesn’t make you a bad person or a bad marriage, it’s just time to one’s own thoughts and feelings.