Solid As A Rock: 5 Lessons From Chris Rock’s Impending Divorce
We should not expect Chris, his wife, or his children to subscribe to our own individual relational prescriptions about what should and should not happen. With that said, I offer my sentiments about how divorce happens among some couples and a few strategies to reduce the likelihood of separation in your relationship.
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How does divorce happen?
Divorce typically happens when relational expectations and assumptions go unmet and one or both parties do not have the skill set to resolve behavioral, emotional, sexual, financial, and/or spiritual issues.
Moreover, if one or both parties have experienced some sort of betrayal (e.g., cheating), the subsequent outcome may be traumatic enough to not enable one or both parties to move to a place of forgiveness or reconciliation.
So in other words, if you and your partner fail to talk about who you are, what you want, how you feel, and/or what you need, there exists the possibility that your partner will not be able to be “there” for you. The reason that they aren’t there for you is not because they don’t want to be; but that you have not shared with them in a way that they understand how to be there.
If you find yourself repeating the same thing over and over and your partner continues to make the same mistakes, perhaps you should seek support (e.g., therapist, pastor, or life coach) who can help you share differently and possibly help your partner listen differently.