The Two Deadliest Words In Life (And 20 Things You Can Do About Them)
The two most deadliest words a person can say as they get older is not “I’m Dying” or “HIV Positive”. Truly the most deadliest are “I wish.”
That’s right. The regret a person has as they get older is killing more dreams and more hopes than any other single thing.
We live in a time where we are always connected: on the computer, through email, through our phones, on social media–it just doesn’t stop. So those two words, “I wish” becomes more real when we push aside our own hopes and dreams to help others fulfill theirs. And we’re not talking about sacrificing for your kids, because we all do that. But those dreams that we’ve always had for ourselves that somehow turn from “I want to…” to “I wish I would have…”
After interviewing nearly 100 individuals over the age of 80, nearly all of them said something that they WISHED they had done in their younger years:
“I wish I had started a business”
“I wish I had spent more time with my kids”
“I wish I would’ve loved my spouse more”
“I wish I would’ve saved money”
“I wish I would’ve taken care of my health”
and the list goes on and on.
So instead of saying “I WISH” when you get in retirement age, here’s 20 things that older people wish you would do now:
1. The most important person in your life is the person who agreed to share their life with you. Treat them as such.
2. You might live a long life, or you might live a short one — who knows. But either way, trust me when I say that you’re going to wish you took better care of yourself in your youth.
3. Stuff is just stuff. Don’t hold onto material objects, hold onto time and experiences instead.
4. Jealousy destroys relationships. Trust your significant other, because who else are you supposed to trust?
5. People always say, “Make sure you get a job doing what you love!” But that isn’t the best advice. The right job is the job you love some days, can tolerate most days, and still pays the bills. Almost nobody has a job they love every day.
6. If you’re getting overwhelmed by life, just return to the immediate present moment and savour all that is beautiful and comforting. Take a deep breath, relax.
7. Years go by in the blink of an eye. Don’t marry young. Live your life. Go places. Do things. If you have the means or not. Pack a bag and go wherever you can afford to go. While you have no dependents, don’t buy stuff. Any stuff. See the world. Look through travel magazines and pick a spot. GO!
8. Don’t take life so seriously. Even if things seem dark and hopeless, try to laugh at how ridiculous life is.
9. A true friend will come running if you call them at 2am. Everyone else is just an acquaintance.
10. Children grow up way too fast. Make the most of the time you have with them.
11. Nobody ever dies wishing they had worked more. Work hard, but don’t prioritize work over family, friends, or even yourself.
12. Eat and exercise like you’re a diabetic heart patient with a stroke — so you never actually become one.