No Flings Attached: 8 Spring Fling Rules

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Spring is in the air! The flowers are blooming, the sun is shining, the winter woes have warn off and you’re ready to blossom into a casual fling!  There’s just something about that spring air that sends hormones into overdrive. While spring flings can be full of excitement, it may not be all that its cracked up to be.

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Casual sex disguised as “spring flings,” “hooking up,” “Netflix and Chill,”  “cuddle buddies” – whatever you choose to call it, has perhaps also become more socially acceptable, or even expected if not glamorized, in today’s society. In fact, there are countless Internet dating sites that cater to these sexual trysts. Has the notion of  “spring fling” become the standard for sexual relationships?  And are these casual hook ups really the epitome of simplicity and sexual pleasure, or could they be a nightmare waiting to happen?

It’s Risky

Some studies show that casual sex is not all that it’s cracked up to be. In fact, things can get down right messy! Some reports indicate that people are often left emotionally empty as well as physically and spiritually distressed. In addition, the emotional and distressed effects can sometimes have lasting effects which may include the inability of a person to form strong emotional bonds of love, intimacy, attachment and/or trust.

Once someone has had a fling with the same person for an extended period of time, they inevitably begin to crave more and emotions may become involved. It’s a natural progression of the emotional fidelity that develops when individuals continuously intermingle. This natural progression occurs when there is an exchange of physical energy along with the chemical hormones that are secreted from the brain every time people engage in sexual activities. These chemical hormones are responsible for bonding individuals together, which is why even long after we’ve stopped having sex with someone we still feel connected to them.

In fact, there are some serious consequences with a spring fling sexual life that should be considered beforehand. Here are just a few:

  • Risk for sexually transmitted infections, including HIV
  • Unintended pregnancies
  • Settling for less than you want and/or deserve
  • Loneliness
  • Depression
  • Lack of self-esteem
  • Spiritual conflicts
  • Inability to form healthier relationships
  • Emotional instability
  • Anxiety

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On the other hand, engaging in a fling can be the perfect prescription for some. The freedom of sexual experimentation is an important element to a healthy sex life, and multiple partners without commitment can be a liberating way to explore sexual preferences, try on different sexual styles, and discover what you want and need sexually. It’s also a great way to discover and explore sexual fantasies without feeling fear, guilt or shame. A spring fling can add variety to a sex life, keeping things fresh and new. It’s an ideal arrangement for those who are more focused on work or other thing and do not have the desire to be in a committed relationship. 

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Spring Fling Rules

Having a sexual relationship with no strings attached can be an amazing, electrifying, over the edge and a breath-taking experience, but if you don’t understand or consent to the rules of engagement you might find yourself regretting the experience, or getting yourself into a very hectic situation. If you plan on having a fling, you may consider some of the following tips before moving forward:

1. A shared understanding is essential. It’s important to make sure everyone is on the same page regarding the spring fling arrangement. Each partner should have a clear understanding as well as mutual power and say in the situation.

2. Honesty and communication come first. Be upfront and direct regarding your intentions. Always communicate your expectations before getting into any relationship. Identify clear boundaries. If you find yourself developing feelings once you’re in the situation, communicate this to your partner as well. This will help to minimize confusion.

3. Find a balance between physical intimacy and emotional detachment. Remember this is just a casual arrangement. Expecting emotional intimacy is a sure way to set yourself up for heartache and disappointment.