4 Tips For Sizzling Summer Dates

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When we think about dating, what’s it really about? The purpose of dating, generally speaking, is for two or more people to assess one another’s suitability and compatibility as a long-term companion or potential spouse. While we know that dating can be stressful sometimes and it is often easy to get caught up in “dinner and a movie” or the increasingly popular “Netflix & Chill,” this isn’t always ideal and can become boring pretty quickly.

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Whether you’re meeting someone for the first time or in the moment of rekindling the romance in your relationship, remember dating can be creative, fun and yes romantic, too. As the weather breaks and the summer sun calls your name, here are a few date night tips to make the most of this hot energy. These are guaranteed to make your summer dates fun, spontaneous, adventurous and will absolutely say “I’m interested in getting to know you better!”

 

1. It starts with the invite.

A wonderful way to a great date begins and could possibly end with the invitation. Every woman can appreciate a chivalrous man and every man can appreciate an assertive woman. Your invitation sets the tone for the date. My suggestion is to always K.I.S.S. –  Keep It Simple and Spontaneous.

Handwritten notes will never go out of style. It adds a personal touch to the invitation and shows that you went the extra mile. The invitation simply states the when, where and time of the date. You can bonus the invitation with your favorite scent. You can also do this via email or text message as well but, there’s just something about an invitation that sets the tone and the intent of the actual date.

If you’ve been dating for a while or live twogether these invitation notes can be next level. You can leave a Post-It Note in the bathroom, a rose and a note on the passenger seat of his or her car or if you want to really go all out with the invitation, send a nice bouquet with your invitation to his or her job. Sound corny? YES, but just try it and watch how suddenly you are the man or the woman that he or she is thinking about and talking about, too!

2. Have a plan. 

There’s nothing more disappointing than being asked on a date and there’s nothing planned to do. The date is filled with questions like, “Where do you want to go? What would you like to do?” It doesn’t have to be an elaborately planned date, but a man or woman with a plan says that he or she has a plan. If it has to be a “Netflix & Chill” kinda date then go all out! Create movie tickets, grab theater snacks, popcorn and actually make it a movie date. Keep in mind this is suggested more for the couple that already knows one another pretty well. This is not an ideal date to get to know someone.

Grabbing a cup of coffee or tea, meeting at a museum, art gallery, or even an event that you’re both interested in attending, are easy ways to test the waters, get to know someone better, have you engaged in hopefully a great conversation and provide an opportunity to get to know each other’s likes and dislikes.

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Dating should be a series of fun experiences! Don’t take it or yourself so seriously. Enjoy finding things that you both enjoy doing and have fun doing them. If you both love nature, take a walk in the local park. If you’re a sports nuts, check out a local sporting event. Find dates that let you be yourself, and most importantly, get to know your date.