Smarter Stress Strategies

man laying in bed, awake and irriatatedIf deep breathing, weekly kickboxing classes, and venting to all your friends aren’t helping you to relieve your stress, you’re not alone. New studies show that many of today’s more popular relaxation strategies  are becoming less and less effective.

So, what’s old news when it comes to really helping to manage stress–and what’s new?

Old: Never Go To Bed Angry
New: Just Go To Bed

When you’re in a heated argument, the last thing you feel like doing is curling up in bed beside your partner. But deep down, many of us worry that going to bed angry just tempts fate. So we bargain, cajole, and then fight some more in an effort to resolve the dispute, thinking all will be well by the morning if the two of you can just reach a resolution.

The fact is, forcing a discussion just because it’s bedtime can actually make things worse, says Andrea K. Wittenborn, PhD, an assistant professor in the marriage and family therapy program at Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University. When you’re upset, a part of the brain called the amygdala cues the fight-or-flight response, limiting your ability to have a calm, rational discussion. So it’s actually a better idea to hold off until you calm down.