If I Had A Daughter…Would I Tell Her To Think Like A Man?

A smiling young woman resting her head against a man's chestRecently, I had a conversation with a parent who asked about my sentiments towards the new Steve Harvey movie, “Think Like  Man.”  She mentioned that she was raising a teenage daughter, and that she was confused about what values, morals, and behaviors she should convey to her daughter about self-respect, friendship, and romance.

She expressed that her daughter was a 17-year old senior who had recently been accepted into college and had a special friend whom she was dating. I thought for a moment, and then offered up some potential scenarios that might happen if she were to, per the book and the movie, teach her daughter to “think like a man,” and to understand how masculinity is exercised in our culture: how being dominant, assertive, aggressive, independent, non-emotive, and maintain a sense of entitlement is, in many ways, encouraged in our society.  I let her know that thinking like a man may enable her daughter to:

  • Be less visible among her peers.
  • Possibly make more money as an adult.