Get Your Glitter On!

set of glitter in plastic containers(BlackDoctor.org) — From Halloween to New Year’s Eve, the holiday season means glittering lights – in your home, on the street, and on you, too! Sparkle through the holidays with some well-chosen glitter, gloss, and shimmer makeup.

Glitter Makeup

Eyes: Look Modern

Sprinkled all over lids, glitter can look garish. But makeup artists agree that a small amount applied close to the base of the upper lashes is unexpected and modern. For this look, draw on a glittery liquid eyeliner from the inner- to the outermost corners of your lids. Then, using a finger or a cotton swab, dab a bit of matching powder eye shadow over the line. Layering powder on liquid not only produces a soft finish but also helps color last.

On Nails: Look Classy

Unlike specks of glitter suspended in clear polish, which can appear sophomoric—or, worse, like dirt—tone-on-tone glitter (think gold glitter in gold polish) looks sophisticated, says Joanna Schlip, a celebrity makeup artist for Physicians Formula, in Los Angeles.

On the Collarbone: Look Shimmery

If you plan to wear an outfit with a revealing neckline, “dust your neck and shoulders with a glitter-infused powder puff,” says Tina Turnbow, a New York City makeup artist. Remove any rogue glitter from your clothing with a piece of rolled-up tape.

Gloss Makeup

On Lips: Look Dressy

If you’re a minimalist at heart, kick up your look a notch with a gloss that’s opaque rather than sheer. For this effect, after prepping your face with tinted moisturizer or foundation and blush (you don’t want blemishes to detract from your lips), dab on several coats of a coral-tone gloss. Press a tissue against your lips so the pigment sinks into the skin (only the shine will be lifted), then regloss for added sheen.

If the thought of sheer gloss alone doesn’t say “dressy” to you, add drama by wearing it over a similarly toned but more opaque shade, suggests Robin Schoen, a New York City makeup artist. Basically, you’re creating an optical illusion (a 3-D–style contrast) that makes your lips look fuller. (A little glitter in that top gloss only enhances the effect).

On Lashes: Look Glossy

Consider smoothing a half-a-baby-pea-size drop of petroleum jelly just above your creases (on top of shadow) for a glossy, not gooey, finish.

On Cheeks: Look Balmy

Blending a little Aquaphor ($6 at drugstores), that classic thick, shiny balm, onto the tops of your cheekbones (over blush) will give you a natural glow, notes Turnbow.

The key to age-appropriate shimmer is using it to call attention to only those areas you would truly like highlighted (in general, the most defined areas of your face, like the brow and cheekbones). To get this look, sweep a shimmery powder in a C-shape around the outer corners of your eyes.

Shimmer Makeup

On Eyelids: Look Complementary

For goofproof glam, choose two complementary shimmer shadow shades. Use the lighter tone all over and the darker one in the creases, then add lots of mascara for contrast, says Schlip.

On Lips: Look Cutesy

A little loose pink shimmer dabbed on with a liner brush ever so slightly above your Cupid’s bow (no matter your skin tone) can give lips a curvier, cuter shape.

On Cheeks: Look Pretty

Uncomfortable with noticeable shimmer on your face? Prep your skin with a shimmer-infused primer or foundation, then spread regular cream or powder blush on top for a hint of iridescence.

How To Tell If They’re Relationship-Worthy

african american couple smiling(BlackDoctor.org) — Relationship success is based on two individuals who are able to truly be themselves and celebrate whatever it is that makes their union special. But many people suffer from the inability to think outside of what their friends and family think and stand on their own feet – which makes it very difficult to build a healthy relationship, since healthy, happy relationships are all about two healthy, happy people who are able to think and act for themselves.

Here are a few ways to tell if a person is more concerned with impressing you, or the rest of the world:

1. They’re fine socializing on their own

Can they go out by themselves? If you find that every movie, dinner, getaway weekend, office party or sporting event is all about how many friends they can throw into the mix, be warned — they definitely need relationship buffers so that they don’t have to focus too much attention on you…or themselves.

2. They love their family, but they’re realistic about them, too

A person with a great relationship with their family is a plus, but make sure that they see things realistically. One of the keys to being a fully formed adult is to be able to balance the love for your family of origin with your own views on how you plan on doing things better for your own family. Are they open about some of their family’s flaws? Are they able to differentiate between the ways their family does things and the way they choose to do them? Watch their conversations and interactions with their family for clues.

3. They’re willing to step outside of their social comfort zone

Are they open to trying things with you that may not necessarily be their thing? We all step into relationships with our basic profile of what we think is fun or interesting set in our minds. Test the athlete a bit by suggesting a museum visit or wine-tasting date; offer the finance guru the chance to go to a great indie concert; invite the artist to accompany you to a major company event. Do they seem to challenge themselves by stepping out into the world, or do they hover in a safe zone of their own status quo? If they have diverse friends and interests, then they’re clearly up for taking chances, no matter what others may think, and willing to form their own, more informed opinion based on personal, real-world experiences.

4. They can make up their own mind

Are they able to make major life decisions without their buddies’ help? There are going to be a million times over the course of a relationship where you are going to need to know what they think. You need to be confident that they are giving you their genuine thoughts and opinions, not what his or her friends, family and next door neighbors think.

5. They welcome/crave new information

Are you ever surprised at what they think about a hot news topic or a great new television program? Do they ever sort of sway from the expected response when you discuss current events together? If so, great! This is a clear sign that they are willing to research and form their own views on the world — and that they are their own person.

6. He shows his more vulnerable side – even in public

Do you guys have your own magical relationship world? Are they willing to get sappy or silly with you in an effort to show interest or love for you? Then this is someone who is not afraid to let their softer self shine and be vulnerable around you, no matter what others may think. Their goal is to impress and enthrall you instead of worrying about violating any “code.”

7. They have a healthy work-life balance

We all want a partner that wants to move forward and succeed, but are they able to be yours while climbing the career ladder? Can they put work to the side to speak with you during the day or have an evening out with you after a hard day at the office? What you should be looking for is the well-rounded person, who values doing well in their career, but also knows that there is far more to living than being in the office late every night.

8. They know how to compromise

Do they give you time to state your case? Do they actually listen to you and treat what you said with weight and respect? Do they occasionally come over to your side of thinking? Can they respectfully stand firm on their views when you disagree? These are indicators of someone who is unafraid to be who they are, but clearly realizes that the whole world does not have to feel the same way they do.

9. They’re perfectly fine with being themselves

We’re all given a mental image of what the perfect partner or spouse must be — women and men both carry an internal image that defines what their role in relationships should be. But are they willing to be the person you need, or do they just seem to be going the “typical” route? For example: You ask your guy if, because of your busy workload, he can help cook and clean, but instead of agreeing to help, he makes it clear that it’s not really a man’s job to do housework. Or, you ask your woman to help you fix that leaky sink, and they just look at you as if you’ve lost your mind. Look for someone who is really willing to make sure that you both get the best out of your relationship.