The 5 Types Of Fights Men Fear
The only fights guys really like are those that take place on HBO or Pay-Per-View. But guys don’t particularly like fights when they happen in relationships.
We shy away from confrontation for several reasons: first, men win rarely win arguments with women.
Second, we don’t have that much we want to argue about. For the vast majority of guys, fighting is failure, and quite possibly a violation of local noise ordinances.
We may have a few little things to quibble about (Where in the world did you put my white t-shirt?), but for the most part, we’ll do anything to avoid conflict, especially these types of conflict:
The “You Work Too Much” Fight
You look at your email too much. Does your work phone always have to be on? You work way too much! You’re right, you’re right, and you’re right. When a man’s work is pitted against his relationship for time and attention, he can feel utterly conflicted.
Many men feel an intense pressure to succeed, to be the one who’s counted on, to be hardwired into whatever’s happening, even if it’s not much. And when you tell him that he should feel that way about you rather than the job, he retreats.
That’s because he’d rather make a choice between right and wrong than the choice you’re asking him to make: The choice between two things that are both important, but vastly different.
The “Ex” Fight
You want to know what she’s like, what she does, why your man was into her, and why they broke up. Him? He wants to stay as tight-lipped as the CIA.
Which only fuels the speculation – she must’ve been great, she must’ve broken up with him, she must’ve been the love of his life. The truth may be none of those things, but he wants to reveal as little as possible because there’s no upside. Ladies: here’s the truth: once she was an ex and we really moved on, we really moved on! Yes, there was a time when I liked her, but the key word in that statement is “was.” I’m with you now, so stop dwelling in the past.
If he recalls any positives about her, he’s afraid you’ll compare, and think poorly of yourself. If he says nasty things about his ex, he loses two ways: you’ll think badly of him for unchivalrous behavior, and wonder why he was with such a no-good girlfriend in the first place.
The “Finale” Fight
When a break-up is inevitable, a guy doesn’t want to go out with shouts, insults, crying, and random appliance tossing. Even though this relationship may have not worked out entirely the way either of you had pictured, he doesn’t want it to end badly.
Why? Because there’s a big part of him that cares very much about his rep; he doesn’t want to be…