each other is spiritual. Learning a person’s spirit; that which makes them unique and different is spiritual…Falling in love with that spirit makes it intimate. It’s one of the highest forms of intimacy. And I don’t know about you, but there is something so divinely sexy about a man who isn’t afraid to show affection toward a Higher Power.
4. Physical Intimacy
This is not to be mistaken for sexual intimacy. The difference is, there’s no sex involved. Physical intimacy is our hugs and kisses and holding hands. Once we learn to like someone good enough through emotional intimacy, we become comfortable enough with them to be physical. Again, this is not sex. This is as small as holding hands.
Holding hands can actually be a stress reliever too. It decreases the level of cortisol, which is a stress hormone and releases oxytocin which is the hormone that strengthens empathy and communication. Yes, something as small as holding hands can have a large impact on our health. Being comfortable and relaxed around people can open doors of honesty and strengthen communication.
Hugs can have these same effects as well. In dating, this can look like holding hands during a movie or a carnival ride. Hugs reassure us that there is trust and kisses confirm we like each other. Cuddling and massages are also physical forms of intimacy, just on a different level. It isn’t the same as sex, but there is still that body-to-body connection and experience we all love.
These intimacies are extremely important forms to navigate through when dating. It covers everything and leaves nothing to the imagination–And unlike sex, it isn’t a temporary thing. It doesn’t start–and then end. When invested in properly, these can win successfully for your dating experiences.
Through emotional, experiential and spiritual intimacy, you’ve built your Sundae. You’ve only added things to your delectable treat you desire. You’ve grounded your bowl with emotional ice cream, drizzled some experiential caramel and chocolate sauce and threw on some spiritual peanuts. The cherry is not always needed to top the sundae. With or without it, the sundae will still be delicious. However, if you choose to add it, then you’ve already covered your bowl with the other necessities and I can guarantee you, the cherry will taste better that way….when it’s last on the sundae to add.