through experiences? Sure, a nice dinner is great as a first date, but what about an experience? Have you ever taken a walk along the beach as a first date? Maybe a bike ride? Had a homemade picnic in the park?
These aren’t our typical first dates but can make great first experiences and leave lasting first impressions. Having someone to cook for you, instead of going out to dinner is experiential intimacy. And this is reciprocated both ways: It’s doing something for someone that they’ve never had, and it’s doing something you’ve never done.
It’s through this form of intimacy, we learn someone’s extent to make us happy. How far will they go to be different or to offer you a different view on the dating experience? This is sexy and it’s romantic. And it’s these things we look for when we date someone. It’s a form of intimacy that’s rarely acknowledged but can make all the difference. In long-term dating, this can look like vacations and trips out of the country. For those who enjoy a little bit of adventure: hot air balloons, rock-climbing, skiing, bungee-jumping, and skydiving. What better way to say, “I really like you” than by jumping out of an airplane.
Physical Intimacy: This is not to be mistaken for sexual intimacy. The difference is, there’s no sex involved. Physical intimacy is our hugs and kisses and holding hands. Once we learn to like someone good enough through emotional intimacy, we become comfortable enough with them to be physical. Again, this is not sex. This is as small as holding hands.
Holding hands can actually be a stress reliever too. It decreases the level of cortisol, which is a stress hormone and releases oxytocin which is the hormone that strengthens empathy and communication. Yes, something as small as holding hands can have a large impact on our health. Being comfortable and relaxed around people can open doors of honesty and strengthen communication.
Hugs can have these same effects as well. In dating, this can look like holding hands during a movie or a carnival ride. Hugs reassure us that there is trust and kisses confirm we like each other. Cuddling and massages are also physical forms of intimacy, just on a different level. It isn’t the same as sex, but there is still that body to body connection and experience we all love.
Spiritual Intimacy: This would probably have to be my favorite form of intimacy. For a lot of people, being equally-yoked is important. This simply means sharing the