Tantric Sex: What It Is & How To Get There

For many couples and singles alike, the concept of tantric sex is foreign. Some people think it’s getting more freaky, others think it just has to deal with Indian culture. Either way, the term itself leaves many to wonder exactly what tantra is in the first place.

For many who are members of the ‘conscious community,’ the word and its philosophy isn’t a new concept, but for the average religion-bound individual the world of tantra is unknown.

Tantra is a style of meditation and ritual credited to an ancient Hindu practice over 6,000 years ago, and its basis is rooted in connecting with the divine through the use of spiritual energy. It literally means “the weaving and expansion of energy.” In the case of tantric sex, sexual energy is used to not only come into complete unity with a beloved but to also draw closer to a higher power.

Tantric sex isn’t necessarily about reaching an orgasm. The goal is to experience more depth in sexuality and to enrich the whole sexual experience. Tantric sex, unlike traditional lovemaking, doesn’t have a beginning or an end and does not necessarily involve actual intercourse.

The entire tantric experience is a song and dance between both partners that involves extended foreplay built upon intimacy, meditation and unity. There is no particular goal in tantric sex. Instead, the focus is to enjoy exquisite unity during sexual expression. Tantric sex teaches couples how to extend their moments of sexual ecstasy to experience multiple orgasms in one sexual experience.

Imagine being able to feel those euphoric moments over and over in the period of 30 minutes. Tantric sex allows couples to become multi-orgasmic and to use sex as a form of manifestation to not only improve their relationship but each individual’s overall health.

So how does one go about participating in tantric sex?  It’s more simple than you think.

The practice involves intimate touching, synchronized breathing and giving each other permission to touch or engage with the other. The key is to hold off on engaging in intercourse for as long as you can. Set aside a special time for this activity, create an intimate atmosphere, dress comfortably yet provocatively to entice desire, practice erotic massage, take a bath together and wash each other lovingly, and practice sitting in each other’s presence by staring into each other’s eyes intimately with legs crossed facing each other. Think of tantric sex as extended foreplay.  Be comfortable, welcome love and enjoy embracing your partner by allowing the sexual energy between you to peak before engaging in actual intercourse.

Here are four positions to try tonight:

1. Tiny ball
Also known as the Method of Great Bee, the tiny ball allows for full depth penetration and control over thrusting rhythm. Climb onto your partner in cowgirl position. Pull your knees to either side of your body, like you’re sitting in a low squat. Opt for a rocking motion over bouncing up and down. This position is erotic because you are the one with all the power of motion.

Be sure to make lots of eye contact with your partner. Tantra is about emotional connection so, the more you can do to enable closeness, the better.

2. Plated Spoon
Spooning is an intimate sex position already, but adding a tantric twist can really get the volume up on this classic move. Set the mood with some lavender and rose scented candles and the long version of Prince’s “Scandalous” (Trust us, it’s what you need).

Start with some very slow, passionate kissing. Synchronize your breathing with your partner’s. Then, have your partner lie behind you and enter you. Keep things slow and passionate. Have him or her touch your body and interlace fingers. Spooning never felt so sexy.