Tisha Campbell-Martin: “I Am My Only Rival”
Tisha Campbell-Martin, 49, is known for her fun-loving attitude that can be seen on past episodes of “Martin” or “My Wife & Kids” and even now on “The Real Husbands Of Hollywood.” But the married mother of two had been harboring a pain that she finally decided to let go last year.
In September 2015, the wife to actor Duane Martin, shared that she been had raped at the tender age of three and that her attacker had written her a letter of apology. Her new song, “Steel Here,” expresses both the feelings of trauma and the strength she felt when dealing with the aftermath of the terrible incident.
In a portion of the video are clips of Tisha with lines from her rapists’ apology letter painted across her chest. The lyrics themselves impart a message of strength and survival. “… I’m still resilient I’m always gonna be here because I’m supposed to be here. I’m owning my existence. It’s a system of survival because I’m my only rival. Yes, I’m on a mission (put your seat belt on). I know I’m on assignment The stars are in alignment. I’m ready for this!” Watch the video below:
But Tisha is not alone. Rape statistics among youth are staggering:
- 1 in 5 girls and 1 in 20 boys is a victim of child sexual abuse
- 20% of adult females and 5-10% of adult males recall a childhood sexual assault or sexual abuse incident
- A child who is the victim of prolonged sexual abuse usually develops low self-esteem, a feeling of worthlessness and an abnormal or distorted view of sex. The child may become withdrawn and mistrustful of adults, and are 50% more likely to become suicidal
In an Instagram post, Campbell-Martin explains how the concept of the video started. She said that when she was coming up with the concept with director Viktorija Pashuta, they decided to use her sexual assault as the starting point:
“Viktorija asked me to come up with one event that may have seemed trying while i was experiencing it but i turned into a positive. I shared with her how fortunate I was to recently receive a five page apology letter from the person who raped me when I was three years old. When the letter arrived, it blessed me. It allowed me to FORGIVE and I’m so incredibly grateful. So with that, Viktorija begins the story with a man writing the letter, then you see him…