1. You let him do anything
As a man, if we know we can get away with it, we will try it. And then try to push the envelope to try it again. It’s really up to the woman to put some parameters, not constraints. No real man likes to be told what he can or cannot do, but offering it up in a way that says something like “if you do this, I don’t know if I can be with you” or “if you do that, I may have to do it too” is more of a pill a man can take. If you let him do anything you’re going to be his “anything” girl, and not his wife.
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You can trust a man and give him parameters. As long as he shares with you what he did or is doing, you don’t have to blow his phone up while he’s gone to “check on him”. Just watch, if you act like you have a life too outside of checking up on him, most men will make it their duty to check in with his woman on his own.
2. You put too much emphasis on social media
Women, listen to me when I tell you this…who gives a flying fart that he “liked” a pic on Instagram of some big booty girl? Nine times out of 10, he probably likes big booties — and there is nothing wrong with that.
But then when you start nit-picking over every little thing he does on social media and you’re not even his wife, the countdown to putting you in the “She’s Always Tripping” box has already started.
Let’s be real, if you’re snooping around his social media and emails, you have bigger fish to fry. Are you snooping because he did something previously? Or are you snooping because
some other man did something before him and you want to make sure he doesn’t do it too?
Newsflash Ladies: He’s NOT the other guy! If this is a guy you really want to spend the rest of your life with, what is your point in checking him telling him to delete this person or that person? If he wants to be with you, he will do it himself. Nagging him will push him to keep in contact with those people just to spite you. It’s stupid, I know, but men can be petty sometimes too.Moral of the story: pick your battles so you can win the war.
3. You automatically assume the negative
(*sigh*) This goes on with TOO many women I talk to. We all make assumptions from time to time, but why does it always have to be bad when you think of him? When something happens you automatically assume the worse and let it be known to him about “what he did” before he can even say a word.
Try something different for a change, assume the positive. Think of good things that he could be doing when he’s not with you. Assume the beauty in him instead of the dark side. Then voice those good assumptions to him. Only two things will happen when you do: