Do you ever have trouble sleeping because you’re worried about how all your daily worries affect your body and mind? We assure you that you are not alone.
According to the CDC, more than half of Americans have difficulties sleeping due to the same worries. Maybe there’s a valid explanation: Stress has a wide-ranging effect on our bodies, minds, and relationships, and it has even been connected to obesity and heart disease.
Since eliminating stress is highly unlikely, we must learn to deal with it constructively to avoid becoming overwhelmed.
Skill #1: Change Your Perception Of Stress
The widespread yet incorrect assumption is that stress is always harmful. It’s recommended by doctors, disseminated in papers, and thought to be at the heart of stress-reduction programs that advertise relief from tension and anxiety.
This misconception, however, is not only untrue but also potentially detrimental. Alia Crum, a psychologist at Stanford University, found that how we think about stress influences how our bodies react to it. When we tell ourselves that stress is beneficial, our bodies produce hormones that help us deal with adversity and develop.
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Skill #2: Modify The Meaning You Attach To Stress
Stressful responses to stress are common because of an underlying fear of ineptitude. Worry hinders us because we convince ourselves we can’t handle the problem.
The key is to recall times when you overcame obstacles, either in your own life or in the lives of others.
You should also be aware of whether or not you are catastrophizing, or exaggerating the worst-case scenario. Your confidence in your abilities will soar, and you’ll feel encouraged.
Skill #3: Appreciate The Larger Perspective
Take a minute or two and think about the reasons behind your tension. Instead of ignoring the circumstance or worrying that you won’t be able to handle it, think about why it matters to you.
Even if your neighbor’s kid struggled in school or your coworker had trouble communicating with her parents, you probably wouldn’t worry too much about them. Worrying should indicate that the issue is important to you and warrants your undivided attention.
Skill #4: Learn To Handle Uncertainty
It’s crucial to recognize that circumstances outside your control may restrict your capacity to take action toward the cause of stress. Otherwise, you waste your time and energy trying to influence things outside of your control, like the actions of other people or the course of nature.
This might cause you to get mired in anxious striving, leaving you feeling miserable if you don’t succeed and overconfident if you do. You may learn to tolerate the pain of uncertainty while maintaining an optimistic outlook via mindfulness exercises like self-compassion meditation and body scans.
Seeing your need for control as a burden you must carry uphill is another great metaphor for letting go. Let go and give in to the intrigue of the unknown.
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Skill #5: Build Your Inner & Outer Resources
Given that we’re hardwired for bouts of short-term stress followed by longer bouts of recovery, it’s no surprise that stress may negatively affect our mental and physical health. That’s almost impossible in today’s demanding climate; therefore, we must fortify our inner and exterior resources to weather the storm.
Take care of your sleeping, eating, and moving about. Take part in productive activity. And try to connect with people, not only to receive aid.
According to Stanford psychologist Kelly McGonigal’s book The Upside of Stress, the “tend and befriend” reaction (as opposed to the “flight or fight” response) is triggered by connection, and this gives us the strength to persevere in the face of adversity.
Instead of wishing your tension away as you lie awake at night, try taking a deep breath and being present. Afterward, you may address the issue head-on or drop it like it’s hot.