you might start comparing yourself with her. What does he see in her? You might even follow up by asking him if he thinks the other girl is hotter than you. No good can come of this.
If he says that he doesn’t think the other girl is attractive (when you obviously think she is), then again you might question his sincerity. You might think he’s lying to avoid your anger or further questioning and you might start to wonder what else he could be lying about. Why is he sweating? Are his hands trembling? All it does is lend itself to jealousy and resentment, igniting meaningless fights for no reason in particular.
4. Why don’t you accept that you’ve failed?
It’s innate for most guys to want to achieve. Traditionally, men have been hunters and gatherers and they want to provide, score, win, etc. So if something’s not working out for him, many men may go back and try to work on it in order for them to win in the end.
That type of tenacity and perseverance is an asset, not a liability.
This advice is relative, because if he’s 40-something living in his parent’s garage and still is trying to be a rapper, then you may need to say something. But then on the flip side, who knows what might happen?
5. You’re mama’s boy.
There are few personal bonds stronger than one between a son and his mother. Accept that and know that. Now, it’s a different story when a man confides in his mother more than his own spouse. But, don’t ever choose to tease a man about his relationship with his mother.
Don’t make him choose between his mom and him, because you’d really rather keep both–they’re both valuable. No mother is perfect, and it’s not like your mother is made of doesn’t have her fair share of issues either.
This is true for any important relationship he may have in his life. It’s about creating a win-win where everyone can be happy. And if this means enduring another awkward dinner at his parent’s place, so be it. It’s just another bonding event and an opportunity to gain insight and an advocate as well.