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Is Age “Just a Number” With Older Women & Younger Men?

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Dating people your own age is old news! Women are dating guys 5-15 years younger than them more than ever these days. I mean look at Gabrielle Union and Dwayne Wade for crying out loud or even Jada Pinkett Smith and August Alsina. It may not have ended on the best note, but she did mention that she found herself quite happy while the “entanglement” lasted. Regardless, it’s quite a different experience than dating in your own age group. As if relationships don’t already come with their own set of ups and downs, if you’ve ever dated someone 5 years or more younger than you, you probably experienced some of the best and worst times of your life with that person. I guess it’s truly all about whatever floats your boat, but there are some benefits and downfalls to it either way.

Probably one of the very best parts when it comes to a woman dating a younger man is that this relationship makes her feel fresh once again. And by fresh we mean capable of things that she thought were only possible ten years ago. Regardless if it’s traveling, having fun, drinking, dancing, or even having sex, this newly-found feeling will make a woman want to continue down this path. Should she? If it makes her feel good and younger, of course, she should do it! It doesn’t matter what others may think as long as she is feeling happier than ever!

You know what this means! No, it’s not about longer workout sessions for the two of you but more fun in the bedroom. This is one of the nicest parts of dating a younger man and you should benefit from it as much as you can. Also, you can count on him to do the handy work around the house and help you when you need to open a jar of pickles. Sounds nice, right? Indeed.

Pros

More respect

This might sound bad, but younger men tend to absolutely worship the woman next to them. They often think of her like a goddess that can teach them a lot about life and love in general. His friends are jealous and his self-esteem level goes through the roof. If this is the case, then you should definitely gain from his adoration of you. Yes, it may not last forever, but while it does, make the best of it.

A lack of “history”

Cons

Different principles

Unfortunately, there are also some cons that we must take into account when such a relationship is happening. Usually, the different principles that the partners have can be a big problem. You might think that this is because of the age difference, which is true, but it’s not always the case. Still, if you find yourself thinking completely different than your younger partner, that’s probably your signal to get out. Don’t stay in a relationship just because of the fun parts if you feel like you are not compatible with that man. Which brings us to the next con.

Different goals

With different principles come different goals and dreams, especially in the long run. You may not want a new marriage, but he may do. You may not want any more kids, but he may want some because he’s young and ambitious. Your careers might be on different levels because he may be inexperienced and not that financially-stable, while you may be a lot more advanced in this part of your life. This could mean trouble for your relationship, fights, and eventually, a breakup. So, if this sounds familiar, you may want to stop it now before it’s too late. Having a younger partner might be fun, but when your lives are completely parallel with each other, it’s time to let it go.

Lack of experience

Also, a lack of experience from his part might prove to be the nail in the coffin for such a relationship. It could happen in bed, professionally, or simply when it comes to the interactions between you two. He may not know how to handle various situations when you’re in dire need of a man’s helping hand. You may not be entirely satisfied with his behavior in the bedroom or even in society. Such a situation is difficult to handle indeed and if it doesn’t get solved quickly, it may just be the end.

Financial instability

This is also a big problem when you’re dating a younger man. He is young and therefore, financially unstable. He changes his job often looking for the best one, which can get annoying for an older woman after a while. So, if you are willing to also support him during his searches, then go for it. If not, such a relationship may not be for you.

The Judgemental eye

We are not talking about judgment from strangers here but from your own family. Such couples might face some weird looks from the more traditional part of your family, like your parents. However, if things go great between you, this should matter at all. Try to also tell them this!

Some Advice

The best one would be to allow him some freedom to be himself. Don’t try to educate and make him grow up forcefully! In time, he will come around and will become more used to you and your mature behaviors. After all, he should love you for who you are and age is just another number. Until then, don’t be his mother and don’t be too strict. Remember to also have fun and let him be the fresh voice in your mind that tells you to live your life to the fullest

In conclusion, it appears that dating a younger man has both good and bad sides, but this shouldn’t come as a surprise for anyone. Any relationship has ups and downs, but the important thing is how you overcome problems and keep things interesting. Age is definitely just a number, so who says that you cannot have fun if you are no longer in your 20s? Nobody should say that.