balance. Try not to read into every single word and gesture. Overthinking, in most cases, contributes to self-sabotage so try to keep it cool.
6. Be Confident
Know who you are, what you like, and what makes you a great catch. It’s not all about impressing your date. Just like a job interview, you want to make sure this prospect is a good match for you too!
7. Ask Open-Ended Questions
This means you want to ask thought-provoking questions. Steer clear of the questions that can be answered with a simple short answer, “yes” or “no”, because those types of questions make it more challenging to keep a conversation flowing.
As promised, we have provided a list of great questions to ask when dating. Again, you’re staying away from questions that can be answered with short answers. If you do ask a short answer question, you want to be sure to ask follow-up questions. eHarmony.com, one of the leading online dating platforms, provides 19 questions to help break the ice on a first date. Feel free to use some of these on your next date!
- Who are the most important people in your life?
- What makes you laugh?
- Where is ‘home’?
- Do you read reviews, or just go with your gut?
- Do you have a dream you’re pursuing? What is it?
- What do your Saturdays usually look like?
- Where did you grow up, and what was your family like?
- What’s your big passion?
- What’s the most interesting job you’ve ever had?
- Do you have a special place you like to visit regularly?
- What’s your signature drink?
- What’s the best meal you’ve ever had?
- In which television show’s world would you most want to live?
- What’s on your bucket list?
- What toppings are needed to create the perfect burger?
- What’s the most embarrassing concert you’ve ever attended?
- What’s your most valuable possession?
- Who’s the most fascinating person you know?
- What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done? The scariest?
These are simply tools and examples of what may work to help you, or someone you know, break the ice and move past nervousness on their first date. The point is to just get started and trust your gut. One of the best ways to limit your awkward interactions is to get out there, get started, and keep practicing.