How should one state their intentions online?
One of the most important steps to successfully finding love online is transparency. “The best way to state your intentions online is by storytelling not making lists,” says Michelle G. “Use phrases like If you’ve or you’re “X,” then we probably wouldn’t be a good match. It’s key to state your top 3 wants and deal breakers throughout your profile not necessarily at the end.”
“The most attractive dating profiles are 70% about you, 30% about what you’re looking for. Mention some of the traits you’re looking for in your ideal partner, and include a brief line about what your intentions are,” says Scott Valdez, Founder and resident dating coach of ViDA.
What is your opinion on divorcees looking for love on popular apps like Tinder, POF, OkCupid, among others?
According to Michelle G., dating apps are, “simply a vehicle that does the best it can to find compatible matches but it does that based on what you write about yourself and the pictures you use. It’s important to spend the time on crafting a great profile. For daters in their mid to late 40’s seek out mature dating sites that offer a different experience from the apps.”
That’s not to say, there aren’t other ways to find a match. “Don’t wait for him to make the first move online,” says Valdez. “OkCupid found women are 2½ times more likely to get a response than men when they initiate a conversation, even with men who have a higher rating on the attractiveness scale. And here at ViDA, 8/10 of the relationships we get our female clients into started from proactive messaging,” he added.
Overall, “There is no one size fits all. Different age groups want different things,” added Pam Mirehouse Divorce and Health Coach, of Pam Mirehouse Coaching. In other words, what works for others may not work for you. Bump trends and choose what suits YOU!