Being Grown AF Is A Good Look: How To Do “Adulting” Better

African American woman smiling on rooftopWhat is adulting? According to the linguistics journal American Speech, the popularized term, which is sweeping across the nation means:

  • to behave in an adult manner; engage in activities associated with adulthood
  • to make someone behave like an adult; turn someone into an adult

Meanwhile, the Urban Dictionary defines adulting as “to do grown up things and hold responsibilities such as a 9-5 job, a mortgage/rent, a car payment, or anything else that makes one think of grown-ups.”

Needless to say, it’s a word which has been used by big brands like Reese’s and Talenti to target Millennial consumers and increased in usage by 700 percent on Twitter. In fact, scroll through the #adulting hashtag and at any given moment, you’re likely to see Millennials sharing anecdotes like: “Paid my first rent today #adulting.” “Ordered my first set of my own business cards today, since I was promoted last week! #adulting.” And, “I made dinner that wasn’t frozen pizza #adulting.”

While it’s ridiculous to say the least to reduce being a grown-up to a hobby, if nothing else #adulting has highlighted the need for real life solutions on how to “adult” better — combating the stereotype Millennials live in an entitled fantasy land where growing up is… optional. So, without further ado, here are 3 ways to take the reins – like a grown-up.

1. Take pride in your accomplishments.

A May 2016 survey by the Pew Research Center found that 32.1 percent of adults aged 18 to 34 live with their parents. To add some perspective, in the 1960s, only 20 percent of young adults lived at home. Though living at home won’t stop you from reaching your goals, hiding behind your adolescence undermines your actual accomplishments.

When you tweet as if “doing your own taxes,” “making a home cooked meal,” or “heading into the doctor’s office for the first time (without mom)” are your greatest accomplishments, you downplay your actual accomplishments. Say you graduated college, landed your dream job and are taking on the real world one day at a time. How would anyone know? Better yet, why wouldn’t you want anyone to know just how incredible you are?

2. Celebrate the fact you know how to handle business.

Instead of jokingly belittling “adult activities” like paying your bills on time, having life insurance or apartment/house hunting as a way to come to grips with the reality that your youth is fading — embrace it. Adulthood is not a life choice. It’s a natural part of life that you need to accept sooner than later. Before you know it, you’ll be “going about my normal day #adulting,” as the above happenings are simply a day in the life.