Processing My Denial & The Allegations Against Bill Cosby

Bill CosbyI wasn’t quite sure about what I would write, but I felt compelled to write something in order to offer some insight.  As a child of the ’70s and the “TV generation,” I grew up watching Fat Albert and the Cosby Kids. What’s curious is that if someone were to ask me about how the opening theme song to the show goes, I could easily start signing “Nah, nah, nah, gonna have a good time!  Hey!  Hey!  Hey!”  I believe that the best lesson that I learned from watching the show as a child is that true friendship is enduring and takes patience with oneself and those whom I am connected to.  Moreover, the show offered me a sense of identity seeing animated Black kids who looked like some of the kids in my neighborhood in Toledo, Ohio (well, maybe not Dumb Donald).

On the other hand, the professional side of me has a background in sex addiction and it saddens me that I assumed that there would probably be others to come forward. When the first allegation came out publicly a couple of weeks ago, I shared with some colleagues of mine that the initial reports were only the tip of the iceberg.  In other words, I speculated that there would be many more women who would come out to share their story about their interaction with him.

Dr. James WadleyDr. James Wadley is an Associate Professor and Director of the Master of Human Services Program at Lincoln University. He’s a licensed professional counselor and marriage, family, and sexuality therapist in Pennsylvania and New Jersey.  He is also the Founder and Editor of the Journal of Black Sexuality and Relationships.  Follow him on Twitter @phdjamesw