joy, peace and all the other wonderful things the holiday season tells you to feel.
So what do you do if everyone around is merry and bright, but you’re constantly reminded of the d-word? Honestly, I don’t quite know the answer to this yet, but I’ve uncovered some powerful strategies that have significantly helped me deal with the special kind of hell of losing a parent during the holidays.
1. Remember That Words Matter
I realize now why my mom didn’t like using the d-word. It evokes a sense of cold finality that makes the grieving process that much more difficult to move through. After all, language is extremely powerful. One word can shift your entire mood. I allow myself the space to avoid using or hearing certain things that remind me of my mom’s transition. So, for now, I’ll continue to do as my mom taught me and avoid using the d-word at all costs.
2. Share The Things They Loved With Others In Your Life
My mom loved a particular Chinese restaurant and often celebrated her most important milestones over a