Ask your sex partner about their sexual history/herstory. The BIG question is always “How many people have you had sex with.” While the number of sex partners may certainly peak your curiosity, it’s really not the number that matters. And besides, your beloved may not be honest. The better question to ask is, “Did you practice safer sex with all your past sexual encounters.”
Additional questions to ask include: Have you been tested for HIV? Did you get your results? What were your results? Have you ever had any STIs? If so, did you get it treated? For heterosexual-identified individuals you may also consider asking if your partner has ever engaged in any same sex sexual tyrst. For lesbian or gay identified individuals you may want to ask have you ever had sex with someone of the opposite sex. As difficult as it may be to ask these questions, it is very important to ask your sex partners about their sexual past. At the end of the day, if you cannot ask your partner these questions, then just maybe you should not be having sex with them. Remember, YOU are responsible for your sexual health. And besides, it just may help save your life.