If I Had A Daughter…Would I Tell Her To Think Like A Man?
Recently, I had a conversation with a parent who asked about my sentiments towards the new Steve Harvey movie, “Think Like Man.” She mentioned that she was raising a teenage daughter, and that she was confused about what values, morals, and behaviors she should convey to her daughter about self-respect, friendship, and romance.
She expressed that her daughter was a 17-year old senior who had recently been accepted into college and had a special friend whom she was dating. I thought for a moment, and then offered up some potential scenarios that might happen if she were to, per the book and the movie, teach her daughter to “think like a man,” and to understand how masculinity is exercised in our culture: how being dominant, assertive, aggressive, independent, non-emotive, and maintain a sense of entitlement is, in many ways, encouraged in our society. I let her know that thinking like a man may enable her daughter to:
- Be less visible among her peers.
- Possibly make more money as an adult.
- Not have to be concerned about being scrutinized about crossing her legs or keeping them open while seated.
- Probably never be questioned about her weight, size, or beauty.
I also told my friend that, in my opinion, thinking like woman has NO place in our society if she wants her daughter to be happy.