3 Ways To Make ‘Rough’ Work In The Bedroom

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Sex can sometimes seem like a competition or a sport, where couples approach the bed like a boxing ring. As soon as they jump into the sheets they are switching positions frequently, grinding aggressively and maybe even using a few holds here and there to affix a little pain that causes pleasure. With the Bondage and Discipline, Sadism and Masochism (BDSM)/fetish genre of sexuality becoming mainstream due to the popularity of the erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey,” kinkier sex has been in trend, leading many to experiment with sex that is a lot rougher than the average they may be used to.  The body is pretty resilient when it comes to absorbing falls, bumps or tackles, but when it comes to bumping pelvises, is rough sex all that healthy?

This is a question that many who are novices in the area of sexual experimentation ask when looking to improve their sex lives, and of course, the answer isn’t straight forward.  Rough sex is really subjective, so the level of roughness or pressure will be different for every person.  Everyone has a different threshold of pain, so there is no real way to gauge what “too rough” sex would be.  Also, the vagina is very resilient and flexible, consisting of muscles that can expand and stretch to fit something the size of a baby’s head. When it comes to the question of is this type of sex healthy or not there are some instances where the genitals may be in danger.