Same Relationship But Different Sex Drives: Can It Work?

couple bed man upsetTime and time again I am approached with burning questions from partners who are seeking to create more fulfilling sexual experiences with their beloved companions, and these questions are often filled with concern.  One of the common questions that comes up is if a relationship can sustain longevity if one partner is experiencing a lower sex drive than the other.

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Although sex is a major component of a romantic relationship, a couple can experience longevity even if one person’s libido seems to be at a lull. The key to a fulfilling sexual relationship is compromise along with communication.

It is important to talk about frustrations that may be developing because of a lack of sexual interest on one side of the relationship. By keeping lines of communication open both individuals can reduce stress and come to an understanding about what needs to be done to reach an even ground in the sexual relationship.

Low libido can be the result of an underlying health issue, elevated stress levels, weight gain, hormonal imbalance and poor diet amongt other issues.

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Being in love and having a fulfilling relationship requires intimacy, trust, honesty and passion. A couple’s sex life can still be a fulfilling one when incorporating intimacy building activities such as cuddling, erotic massage, synchronous deep breathing and extended foreplay.

Speaking to a sex therapist or sex coach is also a great way to determine new ways to build on sexual interest in a relationship that may be suffering.

Beyond sex, there are other endearing qualities that each partner possesses that can be focused on to help strengthen a romantic relationship.  The possibilities are as limited as the efforts of the two individuals involved within the union.

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Bottom line: relationships can experience longevity even if one’s sex drive is lower than the other; it simply takes work and commitment to go the distance.


Tyomi MorganGlamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. Her website,, reaches internationally as a source for advice and information for the sexually active/curious. Follow her on Twitter at @glamazontyomi.