single because she’s picky, because she can afford to be, and because she has choices.
6. “Are you pregnant?”
Whew! This has been said before many, many times to a woman and trust me, it’s not worth it. We could talk about the social, personal, or medical realities of childbirth. Women make complicated and introspective assessments of whether and when to reveal that they are pregnant, but we don’t have to. Whether a woman is pregnant or not is none of your business. If she mentions it, then and only then comment it on it. Otherwise, save yourself the embarrassment.
5. “When are you going to have children?”
This is a loaded question on many fronts. What if she can’t have children? There are a number of women who suffer from infertility issues. Some women simply don’t want to have children. Not to mention issues of their past, like rape, sexual abuse, etc. This question also supports the sexist assumption that a woman’s worth is tied to motherhood, all women should want to have children.
Having a child of your own is truly amazing, but you should never ask a woman when she plans on having one. If a woman wants to share her reproductive plans with you, she will do so when she chooses.
4. “It must be that time of the month!”
Ovulation, menopause, and menstrual cycles affect women differently. It can be insulting, juvenile, and ignorant to assume that any time a woman is having a bad day, is in a bad mood, or is having strong emotions it’s because of her period. News flash: men also experience shifts and changes in their hormones every month, and sometimes they’re not that great at expressing their emotions either.
Just think about it like this: would you want people to dismiss your feelings based on just your hormones?
3. “You should smile more.”
This particular suggestion is commonly also used as a pickup line. So, not only is it sexist but it’s also unsolicited advice, it creates unfair expectations about a woman’s public appearance, and it implies a man knows what’s best for a woman.
A woman does not owe you a smile, nor does she exist to provide anyone something beautiful to look at. How about first smiling then maybe giving her something to make her smile instead of making her head hurt and roll her eyes.
2. “You look tired.”
Chances are she probably is and your pointing it doesn’t help at all. Most of the time, when a guy is saying this, he’s setting something up for his own personal gain. For example, if she’s tired, then he could come and “swoop” in to give her “rest” (rest is a code word for sex). Telling a woman that she’s tired is not helping, bro. Leave it alone.
1. “Relax! You should just calm down!”
Whether you know it or not, you just set up a ticking time bomb waiting to explode with that simple phrase. While it might seem like the right thing to say to diffuse a situation, NEVER ever, and we mean ever, tell your girlfriend or wife to relax or calm down. You might not pay for it instantly, but without a doubt, she will make you regret you ever muttered those words.