The changing role(s) of men in today’s society:
Nowadays, there are expanded expectations of professional men in terms of what we bring to the table—not just in terms of making money but also with things like picking up kids from practice, spending quality time with the family and being a nurturer—which is something new. When balancing all those things and maintaining our own happiness, sometimes, we feel like we give up so much of ourselves that nobody cares about how we’re doing or care about us. I encourage brothers to learn how to motivate themselves, be very much aware of their feelings and do something about it. Sometimes we’re out here just sleepwalking in our lives or are asleep at the wheel, and not paying attention to ourselves.
On being neglectful of his health and well-being:
When I look at health, I look at it from three standpoints: physical, spiritual and mental. All three of those have to be in alignment. With my physical health, I’ve always had a challenge because I’ve had weight issues my entire life. It was my own fault because I didn’t exercise and I ate the wrong stuff. I made the decision [to improve my health] after seeing my father and all the challenges he was having.
On what caregivers should take away from the book:
I want people to know that it is okay to take care of others but you have to take care of yourself first. I call it being “unapologetically selfish”—and there are just times when you have to be that way. You have to be mindful of your health and spirit. If there are things that are bothering you, don’t be afraid to seek counseling from a pastor or a professional or a close friend whom you respect and trust. On the cover of the book, it says “Take back the remote control of your life”; this means don’t let other people dictate how your life goes. Don’t let anyone pull you in a different direction. Don’t give other people that control.
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