Going through a miscarriage is understandably devasting for the men and women that spent months anticipating the arrival of their little one. You’ve likely picked out baby names, decorated the baby’s room and imagined what life will be like with a new addition. Now you are challenged with coping with the loss of a child and wondering how you’ll bounce back from such a devasting loss that will forever leave a hole in your heart.
Twitter user Ciara, who goes by the name Business Bae on Twitter, describes herself as a PCOS warrior and advocate. Ciara knows the pain of going through a miscarriage, so she decided to get on Twitter on Mother’s Day to share what they don’t tell you about miscarriages. Her hope is that women who have had a miscarriage and/or are struggling to conceive know that it is okay “to mourn on a ‘happy’ day!” She adds that, “It’s okay to remember and celebrate your journey!”
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Here are Ciara’s top 10 things they don’t tell you about miscarriages:
- Your body doesn’t recognize that your baby(ies) aren’t there for a while.
- You’re breast milk doesn’t just go away and you don’t get to get slim because of breastfeeding.
- Your hips and back still hurt for about a month because you are readjusting at an extreme.
- The bonding hormones you produced are still in effect and you wake up searching and touching your belly at times.
- You feel guilty because it was “literally your job”.
- Watching everyone’s emotions seems underwhelming because their life hasn’t changed much.
- You have to walk the Earth with people not knowing what happened to you and still having opinions on your body.
- You’re terrified to disappoint your current or future partners again.
- You want to hide future pregnancies and excitement because you are afraid that you will “fail” again.
- No one says Happy Mother’s Day because technically …well ya know.
“I’m not saying this for sympathy but to encourage those living with an unforgettable experience to feel normal on a day where everything feels surreal!,” Ciara concludes.
You can read the whole thread below.
The things they don’t tell you about miscarriage…
(A THREAD) pic.twitter.com/z3scp8DePp
— Business Bae (Blazer Edition IYKYK) (@Businessbaec) May 14, 2023
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What is PCOS?
According to John Hopkins Medicine, polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a condition in which the ovaries produce an abnormal amount of androgens, male sex hormones that are usually present in women in small amounts.
Many women with PCOS are at risk of suffering from miscarriages or an early loss of pregnancy. In fact, women with PCOS are three times as likely to miscarry in the early months of pregnancy as are women without PCOS.
PCOS often develops after puberty, however, in some cases, it can appear later. The most common symptoms of PCOS include: