what it’ll cost him.
“How much time do you want from me? What [are] your standards? What are your requirements? Because we’ll rise to the occasion no matter how high you set the bar if we want to,” he says. “The problem is, women have stopped setting the bar high.”
4. Men only want three things
According to Harvey, it all boils down to three things for men: support, loyalty, and sex (or as Harvey calls it “the cookie”). “We’ve got to have your support. Whatever adventure we’re out on, whatever pursuit in life, we need your support. Then we need your loyalty. That’s your love. We’ve got to know that you belong to us,” he says. “And we’ve got to have a cookie. Everybody likes cookies. That’s the thing about a cookie. I like oatmeal raisin…but if you’ve got vanilla cream, I’ll eat that too.”
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5. Decide what kind of fish you want to be
Although Harvey likens men to fishermen, he says women are actually the ones looking for a good catch. Finding a good man, according to Harvey requires upping your standards.
“You’ve got sports fishermen, and you’ve got guys out there fishing to eat. You’ve got guys that are fishing to keep the fish, and you’ve got guys that are fishing to catch them, unhook them and throw them back,” Harvey says. “You’ve got to determine along the way which one of the fish you’re going to be.”
If you don’t want to end up back in the dating pool, “You’ve got to quit lowering your standards,” he says. “Set your requirements up front so when a guy hooks you, he has to know this is business.
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6. Don’t let the man set the tone of the relationship
Remember, you’ve always had total control and that shouldn’t change just because you’re in a relationship. “With all that power, why do you suddenly relinquish this power just because you want a guy to accept you? That’s stupid,” he says. “Say: ‘Look, if you want to be with me, this is what you got to do. This is what it takes to get to me.'”
7. Get to the point
Those four little words that women love: “we need to talk” are frightening for men. Because men are fixers, not talkers, Harvey says it’s better to get to the point.
“When you say, ‘We need to talk,’ we put up the barriers,” he says. “I tell ladies, just sit down and strike up a conversation.”
8. Avoid communicating over social media and texts
“You have nothing if you’re texting a guy in a relationship,” he says. “We can text six women a minute. We can text it and push ‘reply all.’ I mean, since we’re lying, we might as well lie to everybody.”
Harvey says chivalry isn’t dead, you just have to have more face-to-face conversations. “You’ve got to get a guy in your face. Look in his eyes. … God has given you all this incredible thing called intuition. You’ve got to use that.”
Who knows, maybe these tips will help you find the love you deserve this year.