Online dating is the new wave. I have actual friends who have met their significant other on Bumble, so I want to sit with you to share some tips on why I believe Bumble is a great start to you diving into the wide world of online dating.
Two MAJOR steps to be successful on Bumble.
THE FILTERS!
There is NOTHING wrong with having preferences, you and only you know what you can and cannot handle. In my opinion, the world will try to tell you that if you have a certain preference you are being too picky or will push “that’s why you are single” but I beg to differ. The more clear you are on your breaking points the less likely you will waste each others time and hurt feelings.
I have been there. Knowing this person was not my type (deal breaker type) but because he was a “nice guy” I gave him a chance and it ended up disastrous.
I will give you my filters but do what you feel is best for you!
For me, I am looking for someone who does not have children outside of marriage. It is very important for me to experience child bearing and rearing for the first time with my husband. I am also looking for someone who has a handle on their career.
Now with Bumble you can only choose two filters so I advise that you play with them and do some testing until you get it right.
For me, I would say that my most important qualities are
1. Career Set
2. No Children
3. Man of Faith
Now I could filter using religion but from my experience, a man who chooses not to have children out of the confines of marriage is most likely a man of faith. Basically picking one lead me to filtering a man that picked both boxes.
I also filtered their education level. I filtered bachelors and graduate degrees.
By doing these two tips I now have narrowed down the selection pull of options that I see.
The next part is THE SWIPING!
For at least one week swipe and swipe often. You have to keep swiping so that the computer can gage what you like and don’t like. It has to learn your type. You also have to keep swiping so you can see all who connected with you.
I swiped for 100 people a day for 4 days and got a nice pull of people that I felt I could then filter down to see what I liked and didn’t like. A lot of people don’t do this because it is time-consuming and something out of the norm, but this was the key for me to have a positive experience.
When I first tried Bumble I did not follow any of these techniques and did not enjoy it. I came back to it a few months later and used these techniques and my dating schedule has greatly increased!
For more information, check out my video where I go in further depth.
Danielle Mitchell is an International Marketing Strategist and founder of Average Black Girl. At Average Black Girl, the mission is to create more black millionaires through marketing, web design, product management and securing partnerships. Connected with Average Black Girl is her partner brand called Melanin Business. Melanin Business is a free global business directory that is free to sign up, add a business and leave a review.