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Why Are We Still Color Struck?

Colorism has been perpetuated over and over in society, historically and reinforced in American culture. These experiences caused generation after generation to focus intensely on complexion, deeming European features more attractive and acceptable by society. It’s sad that we still are having these conversations years later. But, it will take many years to reverse what generation after generation has passed on to each future generation. It’s time to change the way we view colorism.

Here’s how.

1. Correct people’s views and stereotypes. I was having a conversation with a friend of mine recently, and she noted that a woman who was darker-skinned was dark but pretty. I probed deeper and asked her why there was a but around her beauty? Would she say the same thing about someone who was fairer in complexion? It was an uncomfortable conversation. But, change can only start with honesty and in having an open dialogue. Why do we place a ‘but’ in the conversation when a person doesn’t fit what society says is attractive? She stated that the dark skinned women had long hair and very sharp features.

I told her that it is offensive to say things like that because beauty is varied and so much bigger than what we have traditionally been taught to believe. We need to stop saying someone is beautiful because they possess a particular feature or look. Beauty is diverse. Beauty doesn’t fit into one box and when we say these things we are reinforcing negative cultural history.

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2. Teach our kids that they are beautiful no matter how they look. Stop reinforcing stereotypes such as good or bad hair or other features that society reinforces as more attractive versus another feature. I’m a big believer that kids become what you tell them they will be. If you say they are smart and intelligent, they will exhibit these qualities and live up to this expectation. If you say they are dumb and ugly, they will manifest and act accordingly.

Believe it or not, just because someone looks a particular way light, medium or dark skinned does not mean they have not had their challenges in life. It doesn’t mean they automatically possess high self-esteem. To move past colorism, we must recognize that we all have struggles and support one another. All of us have had pain; many have experienced discrimination and hurt from inside and outside of our community.

3. Compliment and support one another. Having a diverse group of friends along with candid conversations with them has opened my eyes to the pain and hurt we inflict on one another. Light skinned women sometimes feel rejected as much as medium and darker skinned women because they may feel they do not fit entirely into parts of society, too. They often feel automatic judgments are passed on to them, and ironically medium and dark skinned women experience many of the same feelings.

Having honest conversations, supporting each other and complimenting each other on our diverse beauty is a way to change the perceptions and help one another to heal. Also, being honest about our hurts, experiences and perceptions is the only way to help us overcome colorism.

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Being aware of colorism, its roots historically and loving one another is the start of changing our views and moving our culture forward in a positive way.

June 24, 2016 by Elizabeth Overstreet, BlackDoctor.org Contributor

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