When you’ve lost your mother, whether by death, abandonment or other painful circumstances, birthdays and holidays (especially Mother’s Day) can be the hardest days to get through. This time of year is one of solace, reflection and grief, making the holiday even more difficult for you.
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There is a saying, “Grief is just love with nowhere to go.” Right now, you likely want to reminisce, laugh and cry all at the same time. It’s okay to grieve, no matter how many years have passed. Recognize that these emotions are normal because of the close bond between a mother and child. Because of this, you will always miss your mother.
However, there are some ways you can still honor and celebrate your mother even if she is not physically in your life.
1. Find a cause that honors your mom.
Honor your mom through a cause she was passionate about during her life. Was your mom active with homeless shelters? Did she love animals? Did she spend time helping children through a specific organization? Look up your mom’s cause on a website and see how you can help this particular organization. Pay homage to your mom by finding a way to spend time volunteering at the organization. If your time is limited, you can also make a donation to this nonprofit.
2. Plant a tree or garden in her memory.
You can visit a nursery or local store that sells plants or trees and plant a tree in your mom’s honor. You can also use a nonprofit like National Arbor Day Foundation to have a tree planted in memory of your mother. This is a way to create a lasting memory of your mom.
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3. Cook your favorite childhood meal.
If there was a special dish your mom made for you as a kid, prepare it and share it with your family and friends along with the memories that made that particular meal special to you. Spend time swapping stories about your childhood that make you laugh and remember the qualities that made mom special to all of you.
4. Post your favorite photos and memories of your mom on social media.
Reach out to your family and friends and ask them to share their memories and photos as well. This will help you recall many of the fond memories and positive experiences you shared with your mom. You will be surprised by the many memories your mom created for you and others as well.
5. Spend time with your family members.
Use this time with your loved ones to catch up, share family memories and talk about those things that made your mom so lovable and appreciated by all of you. Embrace your family connection and time as well as the love that all of you have for one another. This will help you celebrate the family unit that your mom helped to create.
6. Get back in touch with nature.
Use Mother’s Day to reconnect with nature and also as a way to collect your thoughts and feelings. Go to the beach, take a hike along a trail, or visit the botanical gardens or your local park. Give yourself time in a peaceful environment outside to