My medical journey has been anything but conventional, but it has been a transformative voyage that has molded me into the physician I am today. Throughout this remarkable journey, I have conquered intercultural hurdles, weathered traumatic life events, and even shed 100 pounds, emerging as a well-rounded individual—a doctor, a mother, a wife, a family member, and a friend. I am filled with profound joy and gratitude as I now have the opportunity to share my invaluable lessons and experiences, especially with aspiring Black women who are venturing into the medical field.
Overcoming Self-Doubt: A Common Challenge
As the first physician in my family, I often found myself doubting whether I had the perfect roadmap to achieve my goals. There were moments when I felt ill-equipped, lacking the right study materials or methods. However, my career took a transformative turn when I discovered UWorld’s exam preparation materials. Their resources resonated with me, providing the knowledge and confidence I needed to excel.
Connecting with Others: Empathy and Diversity
As a Black female physician, I have discovered a profound connection with my patients. Individuals from diverse backgrounds often find it easier to confide in me, perceiving me as someone who understands adversity and will genuinely listen. Building open and honest communication enables me to provide the best possible care for my patients, ensuring they feel comfortable and supported.
The Importance of Self-Care: Radiating from Within
To be an effective physician, it is crucial to prioritize self-care. Taking care of ourselves allows us to better care for our patients. Whether it involves spending time in nature or advocating for personal needs during demanding periods, self-care should always be a priority. Beyond the realm of medicine, I am a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sibling, and an avid reader. Nurturing these aspects of my life alongside my work brings fulfillment and balance.
Seeking Support and Creating a Nurturing Environment
Knowing when to ask for help is an invaluable skill. There is a wealth of resources and individuals available to support us, and by utilizing them, we can excel and reciprocate that assistance when the time comes. Finding the right work environment is equally important. Personally, I sought a culture that embraced and supported me, especially during the early stages of motherhood. Building a collective and collaborative team fosters a sense of belonging and significantly reduces the risk of burnout.
Managing Life Events: Triumph Over Adversity
Life is full of unexpected events that can change the course of our journeys. I experienced profound loss before medical school when my brother passed away. Taking time off to process and heal was crucial.
Navigating the Demands of Motherhood and Medicine
When I welcomed my daughter into the world, I already had a lively 2.5-year-old son. As I embarked on this new chapter of my life, reaching out to my team for support became essential. I was fortunate to have a program director, Dr. Jennifer Corliss, who understood the unique challenges of being a mother in medicine. Her guidance and understanding proved to be invaluable as I sought to strike a balance between my professional responsibilities and family life.
Finding equilibrium between work and family can often be accompanied by feelings of “mom guilt.” However, through active management of these emotions, I have been able to forge profound connections with my patients while treasuring precious moments with my loved ones. This delicate dance has allowed me to provide compassionate care and be fully present in both realms of my life.
Transforming My Own Journey into Empowering Others
After shedding 100 pounds, I experienced a profound shift in perspective. I knew I wanted to utilize my own struggles to help women facing similar challenges. This realization led me to specialize in weight loss medicine, where I could provide