Since cancelling the holiday season and ignoring everything that comes along with isn’t really possible, what you do have control over, however, is keeping a note of these mental health tips to help you conquer this season instead of dreading it.
1. Breathe through the situation.
It may seem obvious that you have to breathe since we naturally do it every day, however, mindful, deep-breathing is on a whole other level than the standard breathing we do on a regular basis. If you find yourself getting frustrated, especially with something that’s out of your control, take a few moments to yourself and breathe deeply – inhaling through your nose for four seconds and exhaling for eight seconds, or experiment with different time intervals that seem most calming for you.
2. Create experiences.
Do something for yourself or with your loved ones that doesn’t require any major expectations except for you to enjoy the time being spent at the moment. Whether it’s going to the spa to get in some “me” time or spending time at home with the family watching Christmas movies after putting the lights on the tree, do something that doesn’t take too much out of you mentally and can make you feel at ease.
3. Pick and choose your holiday events.
Getting invited to events always sounds nice, but realistically, you may not be able to attend every one of them depending on your schedule during the busy holiday season. The best way to not stretch yourself too thin is to prioritize a list of a few events that you absolutely don’t want to miss out on and consider any other function you go to as a bonus.
4. Realize things don’t always go as expected.
While the holiday season is the time of year where families come together and ordinary moments seem more magical than ever before, simply because it’s that time of the year where everything should be “perfect,” it doesn’t always work out that way – and that’s okay. Do what you can to make a situation as best as it can be, but don’t force yourself to make everything or anyone (including yourself) appear perfect. Sometimes, our greatest memories in life come from unplanned moments where we ended up having the most fun and amazing time. Don’t try too hard and go with the flow of the moment.
5. Cut back on spending.
Make a list of people you want to purchase gifts for and either set a budget for each person or come up with an entire amount you don’t want to go over. While you’re at it, remove yourself from the overwhelming store email lists that fill your inbox with reasons to purchase items that you more than likely didn’t plan on purchasing.
If you still find yourself feeling overwhelmed with everything on your plate, or you have other reasons causing you to have increased anxiety or stress, consult with counselor. If you currently don’t have a therapist, maybe look at booking your first appointment to help you get through the holiday season.