Everybody wants to have better orgasms, longer orgasms, faster orgasms, more intense orgasms, g-spot vs. clitoral orgasms (the list could go on). But what it all boils down to is trying to get more of the orgasms that count instead of just any count. Being able to get your partner (or yourself) to climax over and over again has become a standard qualifier for good sex versus bad sex.
According to experiments conducted by Masters and Johnson, women could achieve “five or six orgasms in as many minutes, while men had to leave the field for a ‘refractory’ period of an hour” after every sexual encounter. This was groundbreaking. It meant that women could be just as sexually voracious (if not more) as men. So yes, we can all really enjoy sex… multiple times!
After having an orgasm, everyone goes through a refractory period, in which your body stops being sexually excited and returns to its normal, unaroused state.
For men, this resolution also contains a refractory period in which you physically can’t become aroused, even if your genitals are touched. The refractory period is different for each person and can range from a few minutes to a few days.
In order to help “get your count up,” we have created a few tips. These suggestions have helped people achieve multiple orgasms in a single session.
I. Believe that you can
Building arousal and experiencing multiple orgasms in one go-round is not just about physical technique, emotions play a big part too. The first step is setting your thoughts and emotions straight. Becoming a multiorgasmic man or woman begins and ends with a mindset more than anything.
It’s as easy as believing it’s possible for you personally to climax more than once. Not just that, believe that you are worthy and deserve multiple orgasms too.
Next is learning how to relax: Deeper orgasms are all about a very intense state of release, so you have to be willing to dive into the unknown and “learn to let go” experts say. Once your attitude starts to shift, two or more orgasms may well become your new normal.
II. Do your Kegel exercises.
Disappointingly, having mind-blowing back-to-back orgasms isn’t all just about having sex and will require just a bit exercise before you get to reap the rewards. But not just “that” kind of exercise–we’re talking doing regular Kegel exercises. This goes for both men and women.
Like the rest of your body, if your pelvic floor muscle is toned and fit, it works better, pumping even more blood to the pelvis (which is great for arousal) and making stronger contractions – giving longer, more intense orgasms.
Focus on contracting your kegel muscles for different 15-minute intervals. This should be done throughout your day to strengthen those muscles.
III. Spend Time on Certain Areas
Remember, this is not a race! Studies conducted by OMGYES, a website dedicated to providing useful visuals for sexual exploration, found that many women have experienced multiple orgasms by changing it up and treating their bodies like “new bodies” after the first orgasm. When something is “new” you take time to discover it and explore it. The same should be with your bodies, even if you’ve been with your partner for years.
When you’re with your partner, communication is key. Focus on what makes each other feel good, even if that means spending more time than you like on a certain area of the body. Take time to explore each other’s bodies. Tell your mate what you want more of (and less of) to keep the momentum going before and after the first orgasm. Most importantly, keep things fresh.
If you’re masturbating, slowly explore your body. Pleasure is all about touch, so work through your body (arms, legs, even hands) before you get to the erogenous zones. Get to know your body. Explore using all of your senses. Work it up and get yourself excited for the next thing.
IV. Edging
Edging is a technique in which you purposefully delay your orgasm, which can make your sensations more intense when you finally do finish. You can do this by:
- Stopping or decreasing stimulation right when you reach the “edge” of your orgasm.
- Waiting until the feeling of wanting to orgasm subsides.
- Then starting to increase stimulation again.
When you orgasm after edging, this may be a good time to try stacking orgasms, a technique in which you keep the stimulation going without stopping. You know how you may orgasm and say “Stop” because the sensation is too much? In this scenario, you or your partner keep going to take you over the edge into “multiple orgasm zone.” This may result in a continuous string of orgasms, or one prolonged orgasm.
V. Stimulate different areas each time
“There are several different ways women can orgasm,” Berry says, and each one involves stimulating a different part of the vulva, vagina, or anus. Types of orgasms include:
Clitoral: This is the most common type of orgasm for vulva-owning people, Berry says, and usually involves directly or indirectly stimulating the clitoris with a finger, tongue, sex toy, or from positional friction during sex.
G-spot: Your G-spot exists about an inch into your vagina, against the wall closest to your belly button. Because the G-spot is not very deep in your vagina, it may work better to push on this spot with a finger or toy rather than a penis to trigger an orgasm.
C-spot: The C-spot is located on your cervix, the small opening that leads from your vagina, into your uterus. Most of the time, your cervix exists a few inches into the vagina, but in the days before and during your period, it moves closer to your vaginal opening, which may make it easier to reach with a penis or sex toy. During sex, the uterus and cervix move further into the body, needing deeper stimulation. To have a C-spot orgasm, it may also help to have sex in positions that involve deeper penetration.
Anal: Orgasms from anal stimulation are more common in folks with penises because of their sensitive prostate. However, those with vulvas can also orgasm from either deep anal penetration (A-spot) or even from touching the outside of the anus. This is likely because the pudendal nerve in your anus is connected to the sensations in your clitoris. Anal sex can also stimulate the P-Spot.
P-spot: The prostate is sometimes referred to as the P-spot. The prostate is a small gland about the size of a walnut, located just below the bladder, and can be accessed a couple of inches inside the rectum. The prostate is extremely sensitive and can lead to intense orgasms when stimulated.