We reported that beloved actress Taraji P. Henson was super excited, some say overjoyed when her then-boyfriend Kelvin Hayden proposed to her.
“I said yes, y’all!” was what the phrase that she used when describing the “perfect” moment that Hayden proposed.
Family, friends and fans alike were all excited and looking forward to the day the couple said “I do.”
Well, it looks like everybody going to waiting longer for that–a lot longer.
During an appearance on The Breakfast Club morning radio show, the actress revealed that she and Hayden have split, nearly two years after the former NFL star proposed.
“I haven’t said it yet but it didn’t work out,” said Henson, 50, of her romance with Hayden, 37.
“I tried, I said, ‘let’s do the therapy thing’ but if you’re both not on the same page with that, then you feel like you’re taking it on yourself and that’s not a fair position for anybody to play in a relationship.”
Though she did not disclose the reason behind the breakup or when they decided to call it quits, Henson stressed the importance of internal happiness separate from romantic relationships.
“My happiness is not his responsibility and his is not mine. We have to first learn how to make ourselves happy, to make each other happy.
So when one person is taking on the weight of the entire relationship, it’s never going to work,” she added. “You have to show up, yes you want to be understanding but you can’t lose yourself in that understanding.
You have to still stand up for yourself and be there for yourself but it’s hard to do if the other person isn’t doing that either. The biggest lie is perfection.”
Hayden, a former NFL cornerback, and Henson got engaged back in May 2018.
They were reportedly set to get married in June but nixed those plans due to the pandemic.
Rumors started last month the pair were on the outs, especially when Henson was first spotted this summer not wearing her engagement ring in photos on Instagram, sparking questions from fans.
Then, Hayden was NOT part of Henson’s 50th birthday event in Mexico this past September.
“All of my relationships started looking the same,” Henson added. “Two broken people trying to pick up the pieces.”
In 1994, Henson gave birth to her son Marcell. His father, Henson’s high-school sweetheart William LaMarr Johnson, was murdered in 2003.
Here are some more photos of the once happy couple: