Every week I am approached by eager singles and partners from couples seeking help on how to improve their sex life, and without fail, I always receive a message seeking one magical move or technique to please their partners. “Tyomi, what is the one thing I can do to make my partner orgasm?” is how the request typically reads.
It’s a question that always sends my head into a frenzy of thoughts because there are several techniques that one could use to bring on an orgasm, but the most important feature one should possess is physical fitness. One of the most common complaints during sex is fatigue or wearing out too soon, and most of this is caused by being out of shape.
Most people work out with the idea of looking or feeling a certain way, but not many are aware of how working out can help improve sex drive and stamina.
Sex is a physical activity that requires the use of several groups of muscles simultaneously, especially when attempting sex positions that are more complex.
Working out regularly and making sure each session consists of cardio and strength training will not only improve your stamina by helping you regulate your breathing, but it will also give your body the muscle strength it needs to last in positions that typically wear the body out quickly.
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Exercises such as lunges, squats, hamstring curls and deadlifts all help with strengthening the lower body, which is a vital trait during sex.
Overall, maintaining a healthy lifestyle and incorporating some form of physical fitness into a weekly schedule will help to improve mood, increase libido, balance hormones and boost self-esteem.
Couples workouts to try
If working out isn’t something that you are used to, that is okay. There are a variety of activities that you can participate in, from yoga to Zumba or kickboxing.
1. Booty Press and Squat
- The male partner should lie on his back and prop up on his forearms with his legs extended.
- The female partner should stand with her back to him positioning the soles of his feet onto her butt.
- The female partner should bend her knees to lower into a deep squat as he bends his knees in toward his chest.
- The female partner should engage her butt and thighs to create resistance as he extends his legs, pushing her up and out of her squat.
- When the female partner’s legs are fully extended, she should squeeze her butt and come up onto her tippy toes to complete one rep.
2. Touchy-Feely Push-ups
- Facing your partner, get into a plank position so your heads are about one arm’s length apart.
- At the same time, you’ll both perform a push-up.
- At the top of the push-up, engage your core and keep your hips squared to the ground as you lift your right palm off of the ground and gently caress your partner’s face.
- Replace the hand and perform another push-up, this time caressing with the left hand.
- Continue to alternate sides!
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3. Pucker-up Plank Pikes
- Face your partner and get into a forearm plank position with your elbows directly beneath your shoulders and palms together.
- Have your partner mirror you so you are head-to-head with your hands nearly touching theirs.
- From this position, simultaneously lift your hips straight up to the ceiling, lengthening the spine to maximize the space between the top of your head and your hips.
- Next, carefully come back to starting position, then lean in for a kiss!
These are just a few tips to get you started. Whatever will get your body moving for at least 30 minutes, make a commitment to that activity because it could mean the difference between a lack-luster sex life and a fulfilled one.