2. Avoid sexual activity using alcohol and drugs.
As much as it is unspoken, it is understood that most young adults experiment with drugs and alcohol for the first time in undergrad. It can be a tough talk to have with your children, but this needs to be addressed. Having sex under the influence impairs judgement, and can result in rape in the case of female partners entering into sexual activity incoherently. Encourage your child to remain drug free when making a decision to be sexually active. Their lives and safety depend on it.
3. No means no.
The power of the word NO is monumental, and in the presence of the word NO sex has no value. When the word no is used in the midst of sexual activity, it is the admittance of a lack of desire and the desire to stop. Even before activity occurs the word no identifies a lack of consent. Encourage your children, especially young women, to use the word NO boldly to draw the line of acceptable behavior.
4. Say no to peer pressure.
Sometimes the urge to jump into sexual activity comes when peers put on the pressure, but reassure your child of his or her power to choose and give the age old speech of avoiding the peer pressure. Continuing to give your children the truth about their right to control their sexuality is healthy and encouraging.