no communication. If you don’t make plans, there will be no trip (you get where I’m going).
If you’re always the one to make the first move or put in all the effort, it may be time to move on (or at least fall back a little and let them initiate some things). If not, you’ll be left feeling undervalued for your effort and generosity. Friendships (or any other relationship) should never be one-sided.
Remember: “If they wanted to, they would.”
Unhealthy Competition
Any “friend” who is always competing with you (or vice versa) is a red flag. All this leads to is toxic comparison, jealousy, and eventually resentment.
For example, they are always trying to one-up you or be the center of attention. This could also look like measuring each other’s possessions, social status, and so on. It’s one thing to be inspired by a friend’s accomplishments. But when competition overshadows support, it becomes more like a rivalry than a friendship, undermining trust and collaboration within the dynamic.
You Feel Drained
Are they always involved in drama that could’ve been avoided? Do they lack accountability and blame others for their misfortune? Do they seem to reach out only to dump their problems on you, as if life isn’t “life-ing” for you too? (You’d be surprised at what therapy and self-evaluation can do.)
It’s hard to admit when friends have a negative impact on us because… they’re our friends, and we care about our relationship with them. But if we are constantly left feeling drained and stressed out around them, holding on to the friendship does way more harm than good. Protect your peace (and maybe suggest a journal).
RELATED: How To Recognize A Toxic Friend
Damaged Beyond Repair
As we know, many things could seriously wreck a friendship, like public humiliation, spreading rumors, or betraying trust. And (let’s be honest), whether or not these things get brushed aside usually depends on the length of the friendship, tolerance levels, etc.
But holding on to a friendship that has been damaged beyond repair will likely only cause tension to rise over time. If it’s unfixable, it’s unhealthy and needs to be let go.
You aren’t obligated to stay in friendships that hinder your growth or no longer serve you. Connect with those who are better aligned and form healthy new friendships—the kind you won’t have to second guess.