… or even looking for it, he means that he’s not looking for it WITH YOU and/or he’s still dating other people. If that’s not right for you, then stop wasting each other’s time and let him go.
5. “Why don’t you want it as much as I do?”
(What He Really Means: I want you to initiate sex sometimes)
You may think sexual desire is hard-wired in men, but with every attempt at turning you on comes a threat of rejection — even in the most established relationships. That’s why it’s such a turn-on when a woman makes the moves, allowing him to skip the risk altogether. And it’s not just sex he wants: One recent study from the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University actually found that cuddling and caressing in a relationship are more important to men than women.
6. “I’ll be alright”
(What He Really Means: I’m depressed)
Depression has no gender bias: It can strike anyone, including the most macho of men. However, studies show that men who are depressed are less likely to open up about their sadness or lack of energy than women. Instead, they are more likely to avoid sex, say they’re overtired, or drink more. “Some men are uncomfortable about feeling sad, and their sadness or depression may come out as anger,” warns depression expert, Dr. Firstein. Depression is one of the most dangerous secrets a man can keep, so if you think a male in your life could be depressed, it’s important to let him know that you’re concerned.
7. “Do whatever you’re going to do”
(What He Really Means: I’m already doing what I’m doing/I’m already cheating on you)
Despite popular opinion, men feel things too. They get hurt, they care. An when they are fed up, most of the time they are worse than a woman who is fed up. So if he says that he doesn’t care what you do and who you do it with it, then he already has his mind set up that he’s going to do whatever too or already has. He may be holding back his feelings of what he doesn’t like about you or your relationship. And all that bottled up can lead to a risky decision like this. Men aren’t emotionless. The emotions are there; they just need to be uncovered. And if confessing his feelings remains a stumbling block, he may need to seek relationship advice from a professional.
Another BIG secret men keep?
Men need (and want) intimacy just as much as women do. Mutual respect, trust, support, and communication — these relationship musts are just as important for a man’s emotional and sexual health as they are for a woman’s. When both partners are able to open up and let their relationship develop at its own pace, that love will be nurtured by positivity — rather than stunted by secrets.