2. Watch your delivery.
You’ve spent so much time lying to protect your lover’s feelings, and even sacrificed your own satisfaction. Don’t go blowing your partner’s pride by just coming out and saying it. How do you think it would sound after months of pretending to have had the best sex life ever to admit that it sucks? Try the safer route with giving directions in the moment. Instead of focusing on what was wrong in the past try giving your partner some tips on what to do in the present.
3. Remember that you have the same goal.
Just remember that in a healthy sexual relationship both partners want the same goal: to give each other mind-blowing orgasms and foster a physical connection. Tell your partner what feels good and what you like. In the moment affirmations are often best. If he makes a move that makes you scream (in a good way), whisper in his ear that you like it that way.
4. Suggest experimenting.
If you aren’t quite an expert on how to reach your climax, try suggesting some fun ways to get you there. Be open to different positions and possibly even toys. Make your partner feel included in learning what makes you feel good.
Beauty and hair maven Naomi Mackenzie is a freelance writer and business consultant. Her passion is to continuously keep up with the ever evolving techniques and topics as it relates to skin and hair, while helping others to embrace their own definition of beauty in a healthy way. Her blog, KissTheChaos (www.KissTheChaos.com) shares both an educated and personal perspective, sought to spark ongoing discussion. Follow her on Instagram at @oOolala_laa and on Facebook.