(BlackDoctor.org) — Does your sex life leave much to be desired? If so, you’re not alone. Although it would seem that sexual satisfaction should be at an all time high in this day and age, the unfortunate reality for most men and women couldn’t be further from the truth.
Your Modern Life Versus Your Romantic Life
With all of the demands and pressures placed on today’s relationships, more and more couples are finding bedroom time a bit lackluster. While it’s perfectly normal for every sexual relationship to ebb and flow between “hot and heavy” and “cooling off” periods, there are some things that you can do to ensure that your bedroom (or anywhere else you choose) feels like a blazing inferno more often than it does the North Pole.
Having more sex, refusing to be a lazy lover, and switching things up from time to time are just a few things that can be done to begin fanning the flames of desire in your relationship.
Use It or Lose It
Yes, “use it or lose it,” is the golden rule when it comes to sex. Having sex as often as possible is a key to maintaining a healthy sexual appetite. Therefore, don’t talk yourself out of sex. Too many people make excuses about why they’re not having sex.
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How many times have you heard or used an excuse like, “I can’t have sex right now because I’m too tired…” or “I don’t have time?” Nonsense! Most research will tell you that sex (especially good sex) is a great fix for much of what ails you. Sex releases endorphins that travel throughout your entire body, delivering “feel good hormones” that diminish feelings of pain, boost energy levels, and help you and your partner feel a deeper connection to one another.
So, the next time you could use “a little pick-me-up,” consider turning to your partner. And if you’re currently single, self pleasuring can provide many of the same benefits, so don’t be too modest to keep your sexual energy flowing!
Be Willing To Embrace Change
Among the biggest downfalls that many couples experience when it comes to sex is that, after a while, their sex life seems to get stale. But rather than ignoring what’s happening or accepting it as an inevitable consequence of being in a long-term relationship, remind yourself that great sexual relationships don’t happen by accident, and that changing things up a bit can help reignite the fire in your love life.
Often, the simplest changes can make the biggest differences in your love making. Trying the following may make any encounter all the more interesting:
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• Have sex at different times of day
• Change the role you play when it comes to sex (if you usually wait for your partner to initiate sex, then take the lead)
• Having sex in places where you normally wouldn’t (i.e. the laundry room, the shower, inside your car).
• Don’t underestimate the power of extended foreplay!
• Send your partner sexy text messages eluding to what’s to come the very first chance you get.
• Catch a “quickie,” that the two of you are forced to finish later on
• Introduce something new to your traditional love making – perhaps a new toy, game, or other activity
Above all, remember: the key to recharging your sex life is getting rid of the things that make you (and your partner) yawn at the thought of them, and replacing them with more of the things that make you blush, tingle, and smile.
