a natural mood elevator.
This is more evidence of the importance of a good work-life balance.
“Technology offers a temptation to stay plugged in, but it’s probably better to unplug if you can,” Leavitt says. “And employers should encourage their employees to completely disengage from work after hours.”
Tips for a healthy sex life
Schedule time for sex
“Some people hear that and think, ‘Well that’s not really romantic, how much can your partner want you if they have to schedule it?’” says Emily Nagoski, PhD, a sex educator and author of the best-selling book “Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life”.“But is there anything we do in our lives that’s important to us that we don’t schedule?”
Nagoski says scheduling sex will give you and your partner time to eliminate any stressors that are affecting your sex life such as work-related stress.
Avoid the ‘chasing dynamic’
“It can feel scary when your partner continues to say ‘no.’ What are they saying no to? Are they just saying no to the sex or are they saying no to all of me?” Nagoski adds.
In this case, Nagoski says you shouldn’t assume because in most cases he or she may simply be overwhelmed, and chasing them will only add to the stress they are already dealing with.
“It absolutely is not the case that a partner is saying no because they’re not attracted,” she explains. “Usually, it begins in a place of ‘I’m just stressed out and exhausted and I’m not interested right now,’ and then it turns into what I call ‘the chasing dynamic.’”
Take the focus off sex
Temporarily taking the focus off sex and instead focusing on building intimacy reduces stress levels and get you both in the mood to have sex, according to Nagoski.
“It reinforces the bond and the idea that you are safe and affectionate with this person,” she says. “It also creates physical affection in the relationship that is not initiation.”